usb: Don't enable CONFIG_SPL_DM_USB for non-DM SPL
When CONFIG_SPL_DM_USB was added, it was added defaulted on without
protection to ensure it didn't get set for non-DM SPL builds.
This leads to unexpected and confusing failures when building a DM based
U-Boot but with a non-DM SPL, as the defconfig is unlikely to have
CONFIG_SPL_DM_USB actively disabled.
Tweak the Kconfig to not enable this setting unless CONFIG_SPL_DM is set.